Boy Scout Troop #398
meets at the Cedar Creek Bible Church from 7-8:30 p.m. each Tuesday. For
more information, call (903) 498-5725 or (903) 498-3830.
Cedar Creek Art Society
meets from 9 a.m. to 1 p.m. the last Thursday of each month at the
Mabank Volunteer Fire Department. A $3 donation per artist is asked.
Cedar Creek Domino Club
meets each week on Wednesday and Thursday mornings and Saturday
afternoons at the Mabank Volunteer Fire Department. For more info, call
Cedar Creek NAR-ANON
meets at 8 p.m. on Tuesday at 715 S. Hwy. 274, Ste. D in Seven Points.
Cedar Creek Narcotics Anonymous
meets at 8 p.m., Sunday, Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Friday, and
Saturday at 715 S. Hwy. 274, Ste. D in Seven Points.
Cedar Creek 49ers Club
meets from 6 p.m. to 9:30 p.m. every Thursday for fellowship and
dancing. The club is located off Arnold Hill Road in Seven Points. A
donation $5 per person is asked.
Cedar Creek Lake Kiwanis Club
meets at noon each Wednesday at Lakeridge RV Park
in Gun Barrel City (across from D.Q.), except the second week of the
month, when the club meets Thursday in conjunction with the area chamber
of commerce luncheon.
Cedar Creek Optimist Club
meets every Tuesday at noon at the Dairy Queen in Seven Points. For more
information please call Danny Hampel at (903) 778-4508.
Cedar Creek Republican Club
meets every fourth Thursday. For more information call (903) 887-4867.
Cedar Creek Rotary Club
meets at noon each Friday at Vetoni’s Italian Restaurant. For more
information, call Dee Ann Owens at (903) 340-2415.
Cub Scout Pack #333
meets at the First United Methodist Church of Mabank the second and
fourth Monday at 7 p.m. For information, call Mary Harris at (903)
451-5280 or Tonya Capley at (903) 498-4725.
Girl Scout Troop #112
meets at the First United Methodist Church in
Mabank the second and fourth Monday at 7 p.m. For more info, call
GeriLeigh Stotts at (469) 323-7943 or Malisa Bilberry at (903) 340-7451,
or email firstname.lastname@example.org
Disabled American Veterans Chapter 101
meets the second Monday of each month at the
Senior Citizens Center on Hwy. 31 in Athens.
Friendship Club meets
at 1:30 p.m. on the second Tuesday of each month at the Tri-County
Resource Center. For more information, call Janie Ivey at (903)
Girl Scout Troop 2667
meets every Tuesday at 6:30 p.m. at the Aley United Methodist Church.
For more information, please call Suzann Smith at (903) 887-3889.
Gun Barrel Quilter’s Guild
meets from 10 a.m. on the second Wednesday of each month at the
Tri-County Library in Mabank. For more information, please call (903)
Kaufman County Republican Women’s Club
meets the third Saturday of each month at the Farm
Bureau Insurance Company, located at 2477 N. Hwy. 34 in Kaufman. For
more info, call (972) 287-1239 or (903) 880-6770.
Kemp Kiwanis Club
meets at noon each Tuesday at the Nutrition Center
in Kemp. For more information, please call Dr. Jim Collinsworth at (903)
Lake Area Council of the Blind
meets at 6 p.m. on the second Saturday of the month at West Athens
Lake Area Democrats Club
meets at 6:30 p.m. on the third Tuesday of the month at Dairy Queen in
Seven Points. Everyone is welcome. Email email@example.com for
Mabank/Cedar Creek Area Lions Club
meets at 6:30 p.m. on the fourth Tuesday of each
month at the Tri-County Library in Mabank. Call (903) 887-5252 for info.
Mabank Garden Club
meets at 2:45 p.m. at the Tri-County Library on the third Tuesday of
every month (different times in May and December).
Oak Harbor/Tanglewood Crime Watch
meets at 7 p.m. on the second Tuesday of the month
at the R.T. Beamguard Community Center in Oak Harbor.
meet at 7 p.m. on the third Monday of the month in
the Tri-County Library in downtown Mabank. The public is welcome to
Southeast Kaufman County Senior Citizens Center
Board of Directors
meets at 1 p.m. on the fourth Thursday of each
month at the center, located at 300 N. Dallas Street in Kemp. For more
info, call (903) 498-2140.
SUICIDE SURVIVORS GROUP
for those grieving the loss of someone by suicide,
meets every Monday at 6:30 p.m. at First United Methodist Church in
TOPS (Take Off Pounds Sensibly)
meet at 6 p.m. each Monday at the First Baptist
Church of Mabank. Contact Gaye Ward at (903) 887-5913 for more info.
meet at 7 p.m. each Monday in the Nutrition Center
at TVCC, located off Park Street near the Athens Country Club. This is a
support group for singles of all ages and is supported by TVCC. For more
info, call Hilda Anding at (903) 489-2259.
Making love last and
New state program gives couples tools to
aid in communication and resolve conflict
By Pearl Cantrell
Monitor Staff Writer
CEDAR CREEK LAKE–While Valentine cards and gifts are still in view,
couples can also give one another a gift that will help insure that
their unions will grow to be happier and will stand the test of
It doesn’t cost a lot of money. It doesn’t require a lot of time.
And it’s a gift that gets better and better with use.
What could it be?
It’s a collection of tools to help couples resolve conflicts and
They are available free of charge, and it takes just eight hours to
learn what they are and how to use them.
“If I had known this before, I feel I could have saved my first
marriage,” one woman said of the new state program.
“Twogether in Texas” launched Sept. 1, 2008. So far, 6,000 couples
statewide have completed the course.
Thirty couples in Henderson County between the ages of 18 and 78
have completed it, and been satisfied with the results, program
director Joyce Watson said.
Watson and the HELP Center in Athens petitioned county commissioners
to proclaim Feb. 9-13 as Marriage Week in Henderson County, hoping
to highlight the benefits strong, enduring marriages provide to
The HELP Center is partnering with faith-based marriage programs
through local churches to offer this and similar programs in
Couples planning to marry who complete the eight-hour course alone,
or in conjunction with one of these marriage-building programs, get
$60 of the $72 marriage license fee waived, along with the 72-hour
The HELP Center course is also available in Spanish.
“Usually it’s the men who come with the most reluctance, but
afterwards are the most appreciative for what they learned here,”
Men appreciate learning how women feel and think, and how best to
communicate with them. They learn what her particular style of
communication is, and, most importantly, how to deal with conflict,
“You just can’t walk away and expect the problem will go away,”
Watson pointed out.
The HELP Center course follows the curriculum and video of Leslie
and Les Parrott’s “Saving Your Marriage Before It Starts.”
The video is accompanied with a workbook containing six lessons in
two sections, with activities to assist the couple in putting what
they’ve learned into practice.
Some of these exercises include dividing up responsibilities and
talking about expectations.
“So many things are just assumed from how they were raised, such as
the husband will take out the trash and keep the cars filled with
gas and repaired, the wife will cook and do the laundry,” Watson
said. “But, when couples have differing expectations, a lot of
miscommunication occurs, which opens the door to needless conflict.”
Another exercise explores each partner’s love style or love
language. Each learns what makes their partner feel loved and
It could be through encouraging words, or unexpected tokens or gifts
of affection, or a partner may show his/her love through acts of
Once a couple understands what best communicates love, consideration
and appreciation to each other, it is a lot easier to say “I love
you” in truly meaningful ways, Watson explained.
Another lesson addresses self-development and improvement by
starting with one’s habits. Couples should ask themselves if their
habits will likely lead to happiness, and then discover which habits
“The habits leading to making a happy marriage has little to do with
your partner, and everything to do with you,” the curriculum says.
Other exercises deal with saying what you mean, and understanding
what you hear, in order to short-circuit cross-communication.
On the subject of conflict resolution, having a clean fight has
everything to do with following the rules of engagement.
Some of those rules include talking about the way you feel, instead
of the way your partner does things.
Instead of the accusing “YOU!” an “I statement” is substituted, such
as, “In this (name the particular situation) I hear/see you doing
(fill in the blank), and this makes me feel (angry, disappointed,
betrayed, belittled, sad, etc.).
Another way couples are encouraged to talk about a conflict is for
each one to express their feelings and name their top three issues.
After the wife lists her issues, the husband responds by saying,
“Thank you,” and then also expresses his feelings and top three
issues, with the wife then thanking him for sharing.
The couple parts for 30 minutes to think about what each has
communicated before coming back together to discuss possible
resolutions to just those three issues.
Finally, to avoid conflict or to prevent it from worsening, couples
are taught to avoid criticizing, defending themselves, complaining
and totally disengaging from the problem, or stonewalling.
They are encouraged to see the two of them together working to
resolve the problem, rather than being pitted against each other.
Couples completing the course are invited back in a year for a
“We have to learn to love for life. It takes two. One can’t do it
all alone,” Watson said.